4 But because of his great love for us, God, who is rich in mercy, 5 made us alive with Christ even when we were dead in transgressions—it is by grace you have been saved. 6 And God raised us
Ok I lost it last night, got angry at my daughter for losing a special necklace I had given her on her 10th birthday, specially because she had lied to me. For the past 3 months whenever I asked her why she was not wearing it, there was always an excuse until I was cleaning her room – then I saw the empty jewellery box.
She was afraid I would be mad at her, and indeed I was since she has hidden the truth from me for months.
As a parent I am angry she lied to me, and needed her to recognize and own the fact she lied.
I’m sorry is too easy a way to get out of a situation without owning and taking responsibility for her action – in this case not the lost necklace, but the lie.
All too often we resolve situations, especially in children by teaching them to say, “I’m sorry”. How often do we teach kids to own it. Paying lip service and saying “I’m sorry” does not teach a child the depth and responsibility of owning their lies or actions that lead to the lie.
Yes I was angry and in my cloud of emotionalism directed it at my daughter. I feel remorse that I did not handle it better, and in turn feel I fall short of Jesus ‘ loving nature. Gods love for us is without condemnation, he loves us unconditionally. How it must have hurt and sadden him when I myself have lied and sin against him.
He asks us to own our sin and then sin no more.
As a parent that is my own hope for my daughter. I love her unconditionally, but am hurt she feels the need to lie to me. How we must hurt God with our sin.
Lord God, forgive me for falling short of your glory – for getting mad at my daughter for lying to me. How I must have hurt you when I myself have done the same. Guide me to be a wise mom, and guide me to be a role model, and the mom you meant for me to be for my children.
Open my daughters heart to understand the difference between a lie and the consequences that proceeds its. Guide her to take responsibility and own her lie so that she can restore her relationship with you.
Guide me to do the same with her, to have a calm heart, and the wisdom to handle the challenges of a mother and daughter relationship. The ability to keep my mouth shut.
In the name of Jesus,